Bad things happen and will happen to you. Because life isunpredictable, there will be sudden gear shifts all the time. The one thing youcan do is think you are the boss. Make plans and live your life accordingly.
But that way, you are setting yourself up for failure.Because life will surprise you. The next best thing to do is to make plans andmove ahead. However, anticipate the sudden curve balls life is going to throwat you.
Slowly you will become more agile, happy and habitual. Yoursuccess often doesn’t come from the plans which you make.
The best things come from your reaction to life’s weirdsituation. What is your immediate response when something terrible happens – isit worry, sadness or confusion…?
Sad
The first simple reaction is to become unhappy. Your dogdied, the results weren’t flattering, or the apple mustard isn’t that sweet.The second reaction is the complicated one and which decides how your life willturn out.
If you keep agonizing yourself on the unfortunate situationfor long, then it will take over you. The feeling of sadness will linger for agood amount of time. And it might end up ruining your day.
It is clear to say that these are the things which you don’twant. Taking a moment of sadness and making it into a sad day or week isn’tsomething you want to do.
But those are your emotions, and the best thing you know isthey can’t be controlled. It comes like a tornado and does the damage and goesby. You realize all of these things a bit late, and at this point, you can’t domuch.
The Alternative
The practice is the key to bring good changes in your life.Sure, you can’t suppress your feelings and you shouldn’t. The best thing is tomake them cool by giving it a thought. For example, when your order of friescomes soggy – you are sad. Now ask whether your angry comment will make thefries better-?
The answer is that – no matter your tone of dialogue, theywill replace your fries. So why take tension. Simply ask for another fries.
And if they didn’t give you when asked politely – it isn’tworth the hassle of asking them in an angry tone. If you really want to dosomething, then file a formal complaint and don’t take the reference number.Move on, you got better things to do.
The Habit
Slowly you can take this outlook on life’s instance andapply it to complex situations. Your mind will become calmer, your heart won’trace, and your objective lens will be on your eyes ever.
Yes, it is difficult to see things and remain indifferent.It takes practice, and you will have to deliberately do it to make an awesomeimpact on your life.
But the first step is simple – don’t worry for simplemishaps and don’t ruin your day. Move on easy and fast for small, petty things.And become so big that many things seem trivial to you.
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