Rohan's blog

If you find yourself lonely – as in fewer people to interactwith. And you have a desire to have more people then there are some simplepaths.

And all of them are available to you. Of course, there is nomagic path. So all of them require you to take action. It’s going to be hard,and that’s the point. Take this as a challenge to your emotional barrier, andyou will soon find success as you move along.

Parties

Parties are crazy, fresh, and funky. You go with the bestpair of clothes which is shiny, trendy and inspiring. And you dance your heartout.

Of course, you don’t know how to dance, but it doesn’tmatter. Everyone in a party is looking to get a bit drunk, groove to the song,and have a good time. No one is judging you on how you dance – as long as youmove by the music you will be fine.

And there are parties on various occasions. Even if you arefinding it difficult to interact, when you go often, you will open up.

Initially, you will be shy and sitting all by yourselfthinking these entire people are out of their mind; then you will be enteringinto the mood. And finally, you will lose the inhibition and adapt to thecrowd. That’s what you as a human is supposed to do – adapt to the bigger normsin the culture.

Get those icebreakers going in the conversation. Even ifit’s bad, you tried, and you will get better next time.

There is always a party around the corner on the weekend andso is your opportunity to get to know someone.

Festivals

If you live in a culture-savvy community, then there will beat least 12 festivals in a year. And that means 12 opportunities for you.

You don’t have to be super religious to attend any festival.You need to be empathetic, understanding, and having fun. People will connect,insist, and let you in when they discover you are enjoying the festival in itspure form.

As a result, you will meet people who are humble, arrogant,and somewhere in between. You need to keep moving ahead so that you find morepeople.

Your experience out of this process is simple – either youwill come out of it having socialized with many humans, or you will haveexperienced a piece of their culture. In any way, it’s a win-win situation.

Go ahead and find that festival, learn more, join in, andfollow the traditions. It’s so easy to bond when you show interest in otherculture and history.

People will let you in with an open heart. But at the sametime, take care not to hurt their sentiments and be righteous in yourintentions.

College and Office Events

Often you meet most of your partners in college or in theoffice where you work. Thus I suggested parties and festivals as an extensionto meet people.

But the common thing is college and job venues. So if youare in such an environment, explore the crowd. It’s alright if you don’t findsuccess, most don’t. It’s okay if you feel shy and end up looking weird, no onewill remember that anyway.

However, if you succeed and you will if you take yourchances, then you will have many occasions of connecting with people.

And there are many options available for you – if you arenew then hang around experience people listening to them and giving youropinions. Listening skill is appreciated in any scenario. Or you can hang outwith other newbie’s, and since you share the common tension, you can connect onan emotional level faster.

Remember, that girl or guy sitting next to you is asnervous, chilling, and confused as you are. Speak up and say, ‘hi’ and seewhere it goes.

Do this often, and you are going to find someone – a fewfriends, colleagues and love relationships. This will happen all. Naturally,all you have to do is keep trying.

Only You

Remember, this is a problem you have, and only you have thepower to eliminate it. The crux of the matter is this – the more people youmeet, the more chances you will get to interact, and few of those encounterswill end favorably for you.

The obvious trick is to find ways to reach more people, andthus, all the hacks are focused on that.

If you find an opportunity which will expose you to morepeople in a common setting like a seminar, graduation party and so on – join inbecause it will help you socialize further. Now go and make that connectionhappen.